Category Archives: Fathers


Getting to the Heart of Family Life, Dr. Tedd Tripp

"Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life."  

Proverbs 4:23

Every drive for meaning and significance originates in the heart. For both us and our children, the heart, with its passions and desires, sets the course of life.

All the problems of living that plague family life have their origin in the heart.

Jesus says, "What comes out of a man is what makes him 'unclean.' For from within, out of men's hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and make a man 'unclean.' "  - Mark 7:20-23

Understanding that all of our problems have their origin in the heart is foundational for family life. The things we give our hearts to drive our choices.

The temptation, when things have gone wrong, is to correct behavior. We instinctively see behavior as the problem. That’s because we see behavior. We hear behavior. Behavior requires a response. Once we have made behavior the focus in correction and discipline, we open ourselves up to all the tricks and tools parents use to manage behavior.

When we head down the behavior management road, two things happen:

We miss the heart. When we forget that the heart is the wellspring of behavior, we fail to help ourselves and our kids identify the heart issues behind our sinful responses.

We also miss the gospel, because behaviorism by-passes the heart. Behaviorism focuses on behavior rather than the desires, fears, idols or passions of the heart.

If we remember that behavior mirrors the heart, then the route to lasting change for both our children and ourselves is the grace and power of the gospel.

One of the promises of the gospel is removing our stony hearts and giving us hearts of flesh – hearts that love God and others.

Blessings to you and your family,
Dr. Tedd Tripp

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2017 Noah Conference - October 20-21

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The Noah Conference will help you get back to the basics of what it means to disciple your children in the Gospel of Jesus Christ...the only life-boat that will stand the storm!


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Watching for Daddy

It was another first for me, and for my son Carson. A recent trip to visit grandparents in balmy Houston turned out to be the beginning of my son’s bike riding career. After about 15 minutes of working with him, I was pretty sure it what going to take the full duration of our trip for him to catch on. I had never taught someone to ride a bike before so it was a learning experience for both of us.

But the next thing I knew, he was off and riding….all by himself!

One of the great joys of parenting is experiencing all of the simple joys of life again through our children. The beauty of a lady bug crawling across your hand. The coziness of new pajamas. The happy satisfaction that your favorite breakfast brings. The wonder of a bedtime story. And yes, the freedom and empowerment of learning to ride a bike.

I knew very quickly that one of my first jobs upon returning to Colorado would have to be the selection and purchase of a bike for Carson. The truth is I was probably as anxious to find a bike for him as he was to get one. Daddies like to give good things to their children, and I am no exception.

Well, this time around, neither Craigslist nor Walmart pulled through for me. But you’ve just gotta love Amazon Prime. Ordered a bike on Friday afternoon for $60 and had it the following Monday. (Assembly was required but nothing that a couple wrenches and 30 minutes couldn’t handle.) A meeting prevented me from assembling the bike that evening but Carson was promised that daddy would get on it when he got home from work the next day.

When my wife came downstairs the following morning, she found Carson perched on the back of our living room Screenshot 2016-03-31 20.53.52sofa, a location that provides a four-year-old the best view of our driveway and the street in front of our house.

He hadn’t even had breakfast, but he was already watching and waiting for Daddy. It was going to be a long wait. 

I had just wrapped up an early morning appointment when my wife texted me a picture of the scene that she had captured. They say that a picture is worth a thousand words and this was certainly one of those pictures. That was all it took to persuade me to delay my work schedule for the few minutes required to swing by our house and assemble Carson’s new bike.

There a number of Scriptures that come to mind when I look once again at this picture of my little boy waiting for his daddy. I want to pause upon this scene to contemplate the many lessons that it teaches us.

Matthew 7:11 says, “If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask Him.” Now I’m not much of a dad compared to my heavenly Father, but even I can’t resist the urge to get good things for my children. The bike for

example. The joy I experience as a parent in seeing my children’s happiness motivates me to want to provide good gifts for them. Not only did I buy the bike, but I was pretty anxious to get it operational, no matter what I needed to accomplish that day.

James 1:7 says “Every good and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of light, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning”. I wonder how differently we might arrange the priorities of our lives had we greater confidence in the unwavering and invariable goodness of our Daddy. 

When Carson’s daddy woke up that morning, there were any number of “pressing” items on his agenda for the day. But for Carson, his agenda was really pretty simple….wait for Daddy to come home. That’s it. Nothing more. Nothing less.

Carson knew that when daddy got home, good things would happen. No doubt about it. Screenshot 2016-03-31 20.55.33

First, the tools would come out. There does seem to be an innate love of tools in boys of all ages. For the dads that are reading, close your eyes and picture yourself in the tool section of Home Depot. Ahhhhhhhh! You know the feeling.

But this time, the tools weren’t going to come out to fix a leaky sink or knock an item of the honey-do list. The tools would come out and after a few twists, turns and probably an “Oops, did that wrong”, Vualah! Carson would have a bike.

Carson’s posture of watchful repose that morning reminds me of Psalm 37:7 & 34 , which say “Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him. Fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass… Wait on the LORD, and keep his way, and he shall exalt thee to inherit the land: when the wicked are cut off, thou shalt see [it].”

Homeschool dad and mom, there’s no need to worry. Not need to get all bent out of shape over the outcome of things, including our homeschool endeavors. When Daddy shows up, (and He most certainly will for those who wait for Him), good things, very good things, will happen. While Carson inherited a $60 hunk of steal, our Father promises that we will be exalted to inherit the land.

It is certainly beyond the scope of this article to unpack and convey all off the goodness that our Father promises to us in this passage and throughout Scripture. My object here is simply to challenge all of us with the example of a little boy who believes in the goodness of his daddy, expects good things to come from his daddy, and waits expectantly until it happens.

One of the challenges homeschooling parents face is the temptation to build expectation on a system that will produce good things for us and for our children. Good character. Good insulation from the culture. Good education. Good careers. And perhaps most importantly, a good reputation….for our children too. And so we gradually begin to shift our expectation from our Father, the very fountain of abundant life, and we begin to agitate for satisfaction from other means.

Friends, the true beauty of homeschooling is found in the opportunity that it provides families to arrange their entire family “agenda” around that Person in whom and from who is immeasurable goodness. 

Carson was not found waiting on the tools that morning, longingly watching for them self-activate and assemble his bike. Not that tools were immaterial to the job that he hoped would be done. They certainly were and there were certainly some tools that would work better than others.

But at the end of the day, Carson knew that what was most essential to the bike being put together was for his daddy to come home. The good thing he was hoping for depended ultimately on his daddy showing up.

That is exactly how we need to looking at home education and discipleship. I would argue that homeschooling is the best tool for the education and discipleship of your children. But I can also assure you that nothing good is going to happen unless your Father shows up. 

So let us put our hope in Him alone. Lest us wait patiently, watchfully, and expectantly on Him and may we arrange all aspects of our family agenda around the One from Whom all blessings flow.

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CH OnAir Broadcast: Young Men: Their Pursuits in Employment & Business

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Are you looking for a way to rally your young men to action? This free CH OnAir broadcast presents ideas and motivation from the experiences of young men who purposely sought to use their God-given skills and abilities in the area of employment and business. Listen as we interview a panel of young men on how they maximized time and opportunities to prepare financially for their future.
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CH OnAir Broadcast: Returning to the “Why” when you get stuck in the “What,” with Dwight Cover

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Dear Friends,

It was Saturday morning of the Family Relationships & Parenting Conference in Ocean Shores, WA, and I had just sat down to listen to Pastor Dwight Cover’s keynote session, “Why Your Family Matters in the Advance of God’s Kingdom.”

In a matter of minutes into Dwight’s talk, I jumped out of my chair, walked over to my producer for Christian Heritage OnAir, Danny Craig, and said, ”We have to have this guy on the program!”

I could tell Dwight was passionate about the family, but what stood out to me even more was his passing comment about how he and his wife had lost their way – after 20 years of homeschooling! They got disconnected from the “WHY” and had started to drop the ball on the “WHAT”.

Now I could relate to that!

If you can too, please listen in to this next episode of Christian Heritage OnAir as Pastor and homeschooling father, Dwight Cover, shares his testimony of returning to the “Why” when he got stuck in the “What.” Listen in for six reasons we must keep the “Why” in view and the transformation we can experience when we do.

“See” you there!

Dr. Thomas Lamar
Host, Christian Heritage OnAir

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CH OnAir Broadcast: How to Raise God-Worshipping Children, with Dr. Joel Beeke

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Many parents begin the Homeschool Journey motivated by a strong desire to nurture a deep and enduring love for God in their children. Over time, they realize that passing on their faith requires something more than simply schooling them at home.

So how do you pass on your deepest convictions to your children in such a way that they learn to worship God on their own? How do you daily bring them to Christ – fully realizing that He, alone, can save them? On September 9 at 7pm, Joel Beeke will join us live to present the familiar biblical pattern of daily discipleship – but in a fresh and winsome way. Tune in to hear the heartfelt testimony of a man whose life was transformed by parents who understood how to raise God-worshiping children.

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CH OnAir Broadcast: Walking with Your Sons on the Journey to Manhood, with Craig Houston

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Dear Fellow Dads,

I love my boys – all five of them – and I want the very best for them. I want them to grow up to be mighty men who fear God, and God alone. But I also want them to be tender, humble, self-sacrificing men who lay down their lives for others.

Sometimes it’s tempting to look for a special formula that will guarantee our sons will turn out exactly as we envision. There isn’t a special formula. 

I’m convinced, however, that there is a special journey. This is the journey of a father walking beside his son into manhood. This is the journey of a father giving his heart to his sons, with the desire for their hearts in return.

This is the journey I’m seeking to walk with my five boys. And if you desire to walk this journey too, I’d like to invite you to listen to the recording of this Christian Heritage OnAir Live Video Broadcast recorded on August 5, as we explore:

  • How we can give our hearts to our sons, and truly make the effort to gain their’s.
  • How we can build trust with our sons.
  • How we can help our sons reach their full potential, acknowledging their unique natural gifts, spiritual gifts, personalities, and passions.
  • How we can train our sons to understand the importance of work and diligence.
  • How we can lovingly chasten our sons as our Heavenly Father chastens us.
  • How we can teach our sons to love God and others, preferring others better than themselves.
  • How we can give our sons the opportunity to exercise leadership….and fail in the process.
Dads, this world is an unfriendly place for boys who want to become godly men. Let’s not let make them walk this road alone.
Your Brother in Christ,
Pastor Craig Houston

 
 

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June 9, 2014
Celebrations, Fathers
 

This Father’s Day: The Most Important 10 Minutes in Homeschooling

fatherSo you and your wife have decided to homeschool, eh? Congratulations! You’re on the most important journey you’ll ever take as a family. And now you’re wondering how you can help, right? You’re already working overtime to make ends meet. There aren’t enough hours in the day to complete the many commitments you already have at work, at home, at church and elsewhere. So how can you make the greatest impact on your family’s homeschool experience?

It’s so easy, most of us overlook it. It’s those first ten minutes when you walk in the door from work. Your wife has been mentoring, teaching, encouraging, disciplining, testing, grading and changing diapers all day long. She needs to know that you understand the sacrifice she’s made today. She needs you to not look at the pile of bills on the kitchen table, to not look at today’s scores on ESPN, to not look at what’s on the stove for dinner and to not look at the lawn that needs mowing. She needs you to look her directly in the eyes and ask her, “So tell me about your day, sweetheart.” (more…)

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